|He loves his job, and he is definitely not frustrated.|
We grow up with dreams of wanting to be someone or do something specific.
And then we grow up.
We realize the path we arrived at is not the path we ultimately were pursuing.
Why is that?
Is it because we fall out of love of being the person we wanted to be? Is it after the expereince that you then realize this is not who you want to be? Or is it because we never get to be who we wanted to be?
Are you alone in discovering this?
It may seem that way. It may seem like everyone around you knows exactly what they want to do and who they want to be.
Is time running out?
Are you ever going to settle?
These are the questions I ask myself. Life throws us all kind of curve balls. I would have never thought when I was growing up to be doing what I am doing today.
It is okay to be unsure. My career path has changed. So can yours.
Does it have to be a written script that you have to follow? NO.
How will you ever know what you want to be when you haven't experienced being that person. Trying every field will waste more time for you. How do you know what you want to do and that you will be happy doing it?
Follow your heart? Follow your passion? Well that's all bullshit. Because passion and following your heart doesn't pay the bills unfortunately. Luckily there are other ways!
Starting with a big list of the things you think you want to do and narrow down the options.
Taking colleges or friends of friends to coffee that you meet through social media ie. linkedin or network groups. Asking them the not so obvious questions. Finding out what the day to day workload is like for them in their field.
I got this advice from Raghav Haran, his the host at 'land any job you want'.
You are not alone in your path to discovery. The worst you can do is settle for something that ultimately makes you miserable deep inside.
I've had this conversation with my girlfriend and we both agree that most jobs you just are not going to be totally in love with them and that is okay. That is life.
What's not okay is to absolutely be miserable and hate what you do. Then I suggest to fill your time outside of work with things you absolutely love. Balance.
Whenever you hear that someone loves their job. Guess what, they worked damn hard and they hated it in the beginning and probably had a ton of doubts about it. That is normal. If you don't endure this kind of pain then you are a rare breed and I applaud you.
Loving your job or career comes after you have built your skills that make you indispensable.
Everyone is their own boss. Even when you work for someone else, guess what you choose to work there and you choose to get up every morning. You can also choose to occupy your free time with things that will give you that satisfaction that you may not be getting in your job.
So pick something already and start building your skill set. Build it until your job becomes easy. When that happens, guess what, you begin to actually like or let me rephrase that, love what you do.
I want to leave you this post with a quote from Jim Carrey "You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance at doing what you love".
What you choose to do with this information is up to you.
To be continued....